There are these times -that occur over and over again- when you laugh at the descriptions of certain situations, and their outcomes, by others. Until it happens to you. That is when narrations, these extreme stories, turn to reality. Although, you still feel uncomfortable to share them not because of their inappropriateness but because of their unfortunate ending. You start telling the story from your favorite part which has always been the one that he craves for you and wants more and more of your body in the house, in the car, in the bar, even in public. Both of you feel constantly aroused and hypnotised by this desire that does whatever it wants with your bodies.
Sometimes you feel exhausted. It is too demanding to be wanted all the time afetr all. But he is unstoppable. Every day his appetite becomes bigger and bigger. You feel like he wants to devour you. At the same time, you feel lucky that the sex is so steamy and never ending that you find it hard to realise what has been going wrong with your friends relationships that lack this flame for quite some time now. You are at the point of starting giving advice and sex tips when he comes confessing his situation: He has been with more women than you can count only this last past week and his only excuse is that he suffers from sexual addiction. Unable to understand when you are infuriated enough to leave him for using such a ridiculous excuse to screw around like a rabbit, he starts explaining his situation.
More specifically:
Sexual addiction, also known as sex addiction, is a state characterized by compulsive participation or engagement in sexual activity, particularly sexual intercourse, despite negative consequences. Proponents of a diagnostic model for sexual addiction, as defined here, consider it to be one of several sex-related disorders within an umbrella concept known as hypersexual disorder. In clinical diagnostics, the term sexual dependence may also refer to a conceptual model that is used to assess people who report being unable to control their sexual urges, behaviors, or thoughts. Related models of pathological sexual behavior includes hypersexuality, erotomania, nymphomania, satyriasis, Don Juanism (or Don Juanitaism), and paraphilia-related disorders.
Clinicians, such as psychiatrists, sociologists, sexologists, and other specialists, have differing opinions on the classification and clinical diagnosis of sexual addiction. As a result, “sexual addiction” does not exist as a clinical entity in either the DSM or ICD medical classifications of diseases and medical disorders.
Neuroscientists, pharmacologists, molecular biologists, and other researchers in related fields have identified a transcriptional and epigenetic model of drug and behavioral (including sexual) addiction pathophysiology. Diagnostic models, which use the pharmacological model of addiction (this model associates addiction with drug-related concepts, particularly physical dependence, drug withdrawal, and grug tolerance do not currently include diagnostic criteria to identify sexual addictions in a clinical setting. In the alternative reward-reinforcement model of addiction, which uses neuropsychological concepts to characterize addictions, sexual addictions are identifiable and well-characterized.In this model, addictive drugs are characterized as those which are both reinforcing and rewarding (i.e., activates neural pathways associated with reward perception).Addictive behaviors (those which can induce a compulsive state) are similarly identified and characterized by their rewarding and reinforcing properties.
Thus, you realise there is no treatment and no cause for what happens. You seek someone to blame but the truth is there is no real culprit. You cannot even think in rational terms like you would think for any other sick human who comes in front of you confessing he is in need. Somehow you feel betrayed. Betrayed by yourself mostly that made you believe he could not get enough of you. In fact he cannot get enough in general. And now you’ve reached to that point in the narration where you do not know how to feel about yourself. This time you choose to feel lucky.
Lucky because now you really have the chance to be someone’s true addiction. To taste every drop of you insatiably, to fantasize about you and wet his pants in the office break, to make your bed a porn background scenery. You can contribute to that yourself to make it happen. All this ‘clinical’ practise has made you better, after all.
References:
Wikipedia: Sexual Addiction
Author: Pepi Naki
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