So what is the best therapy for nerves, anxiety, migraines, and a generally shitty day?
Come on, isn’t it?
I know I spoiled the whole article from the introduction, but I think we all thought the same thing. Kudos people, you have dirty minds, not as dirty as mine, but still, you are doing just fine. However, I hear it all the time. It’s all about sex, shagging, fucking, afternoon delight, aggressive cuddling, and all that comes with it. (See what I did there? No? Never mind. Move along kid, this is an adult article). However here, tonight, I want us all to think carefully and out of the box. Is sex indeed all you need after a shitty day or is it a need artificially imposed upon us?
Now that I have your attention, we can talk. I do not mean of course that sex is an imposed need and that we can live without it. It is a biological need, because hormones dance around our bodies and, for a number of reasons, we need to dance along. In all the ways possible, in all possible places, there is no escaping that consensual dance. However, I am –too– sick and tired of hearing people telling others “You need a good fuck”. It is as if sex will solve any issue, it’ll make your life better, it will improve your financials, bring back your pet, bring back your gorgeous ex, give you a one-way ticket to an adult Disneyland (or Vegas, one and the same).
However, I am sorry. I am that old-fashioned kind of person who thinks that sex is indeed an act between (or among) consensual adults, and I personally despise the act if it is devoid of emotion; if all you’re doing is blowing off steam with someone you don’t share a special connection with. I do understand that finding just one seems out-dated in our times, so I don’t care how many times you’ve felt that connection. There are 7 billion of us on this earth – you are bound to find it more than once.
And I’m no puritan here, don’t get me wrong. Do what you want to do with whomever you want. But don’t for a moment think that the “no strings and feelings attached” attitude will protect you from being hurt. If you have a partner with whom you can go all “animal planet,” then by all means do it. But don’t just hook up with people for that in hopes that it will make your own day better without caring about that other someone.
Sex as a means to make ourselves feel better, improve our mood, and use it as a tool at the end of the day to simply unwind, is bound to be a failure. Maybe not now, maybe not tomorrow, but in the long run. I have not met a single person that has told me otherwise. It might feel good temporarily, but it will fade. And then what?
Relax and let go. Don’t force yourself to do anything. And stop listening to people that will think that everything will go away with a good orgasm. Orgasms are the cherry on the top of your cake, not the cake itself. Make sure you have figured out what you want from yourself and everything else will follow.
If not, then discard all I said and go have hot steamy, primal sex. Just for the hell of it; because you need a good fuck. Whatever works…