Written by Tatiana
I know people are always talking about how they want to fall in love, but honestly, at this point in my life I’m not sure that’s what I’m looking for.
Right now, to be frank, I really just wish I could hook up with people. No commitment. Just fun.
Unfortunately, I’ve never really been the type to ‘hook up.’ I know I’m supposed to want to find a meaningful relationship—and some day that would be awesome—but the prospect of meeting someone sexy out at the bar, going home, and having sex with them seems so much more enticing than worrying about meeting someone I want to spend forever with. I have enough going on right now that I don’t need to add the stress of a committed relationship.
There’s something so thrilling about hooking up with someone and then never having to see them again. It’s a great opportunity to be yourself without worrying about whether or not the other person will judge you. You don’t have to worry about if they’ll want to see you again because you know going into it that it’s a one-time thing.
You see, you’re not restricted to being your everyday self. Instead, hooking up can be a chance to play someone else. You don’t have to worry about whether or not everything you tell this other person is accurate because, for the most part, it doesn’t matter. If you’re just going to fuck them it it’s irrelevant if you’re a doctor or an artist. A local or a tourist. A real comedian or the dark brooding type. You can be whomever you want for that night. So long as you’re safe, there won’t really be any repercussions.
And that’s because none of these facts really matter if it’s a one-night stand. There are just so many possibilities that exist to play around with. If you’ve always felt sexual attraction escaping from your pours when you pass a man who’s a bit older, but you wouldn’t want a serious relationship, then this is a perfect time to explore that attraction.
Maybe it’s the time to try some new fetish. You’ll probably never see them again, so even if they do judge you a tiny bit it doesn’t matter.
The girl from across the bar who is eyeing you may not be someone you’d want to marry, but she sure looks like she’d add some excitement to the night.
This desire is always exacerbated whenever I’m at a music festival. So many people, so little clothes. Everyone is glistening.
While I see all of these fun prospects in hooking up, sadly, I’ve never been the type to actually do so. I’m stuck on the sidelines, thinking it would be fun, but rarely doing it.
To really be able to enjoy hooking up, I think you have to be able to shut your brain off a bit. It’s hard to hook up with someone if you’re worried about being ax-murdered when the two of you are alone. It’s hard to hook up when you’re worried about ditching the friend you came out with or about what they’ll think if you tell them you’re going home with a stranger. It’s hard to hook up when you’re worried you’ll regret it and hate yourself in the morning.
That’s why, as much as I’d love to be one of those people who hooks up, I’ll never get to be one. I’ll just stay here wishing I was.