Life is full of happy moments. It also includes the blues, difficult situations and hard times. There are smiles, as well as tears. Love but also hate. Laughter with family, acquaintances, friends and lovers. Pain in the loss of them. You learn to live through all of it, and you continue learning about yourself, every day, from the minute you are born until the end of your life.
Many factors contribute to the way you live your life, to the choices you make and to the person you become; but there is one thing that’s the most important of all. It’s you. Everything starts from the individual. Factors vary, but it’s up to you to make good use of all that’s given to you; all the things that come and go from your life, all the information you get on a daily basis. It’s up to you to create a good relationship with yourself, live the best way you can, discover and make peace with who you really are.
Living your life and being around others is a wonderful thing. You get to know them, learn things that you might not have had the chance to learn on your own; you live moments and you hear things that help you open your mind to a different view on things. Travelling around the world, learning about new cultures, meeting new people, seeing new things create the perfect environment for you to feel and give you food for thought. Plus, creating a daily life that will make you happy and complete helps you in learning who you are and living in the best way you can.
But all this can mean nothing if you don’t take your time to take a deeper look inside you, if you don’t work with yourself and create solid ground for everything and everyone to be linked to.
One of the best things to do is to spend time alone. The time you spend on your own is precious, because it’s basically the best time for you to grow. These moments are the ones when you can take all you have gained so far and transform it into something else; a kind of energy that will help you realize things about you and the world around you.
When you’re with other people, you may have to deal with lots of stimuli, but it’s crucial to give yourself a break from socializing every once and a while and spend some quite time on your own. This kind of time is definitely refreshing -and the greatest opportunity to face the person looking back at you in the mirror.
You can just relax and get lost in your thoughts, you can take up a hobby -or a couple, for that matter- or you can do whatever makes you feel calmer and lets you enter a deeper level of thought and realization.
Give yourself a day off, stay at home, cook something you like or order your favorite food, meditate, watch a movie or series that makes you laugh, and most of all think about things.
How do you feel these days? Are you happy? Are you satisfied with the way things are going in your life? Do you want something more? Are there any changes you would like to make? Do you become a better person as time passes? What are you doing about the things that don’t go exactly the way you would like them to? There are so many things you could think about. And you use this time to get more real than ever with yourself.
Don’t be afraid, in the end it can do you only good.
Because by knowing who you really are, you can improve your life and your relationships. If you know your preferences, your weaknesses, your great qualities, and you’re ok with the good and the bad that characterize you, you’re much calmer and, surely, a much better person to be around!