It always takes two people to create a beautiful relationship but sometimes, it’s one of the two who puts in a tiny bit more effort than the other. Being the one who cares more makes you feel uncomfortably desperate – like you suddenly have to justify your entire existence to somebody else. You’re not at all desperate; if you felt that way, it should be a reason to. That other person made you feel like they deserve your time and you didn’t waste your time and your efforts on them in the first place.
Being the one who cares less makes us feel more attractive, cool and charming; but believe me, never anything more than that. I don’t understand why we have to play roles and take pride in it if you’re the one who cares less. It’s not a badge of honor to wear as if you have triumphed over something. It doesn’t even mean that you’re stronger and that those who care more, love more, are the losers.
If you get to meet someone you’re crazy about, someone who lights up your day, someone you cannot wait to see again and you suddenly want to spend every waking moment with them, then just go ahead and give them the best of you. If you care more then show it. Stand up for your commitments and, most importantly, don’t cut your passion in half just to keep up with someone who’s probably dead inside.
If you’re the only one left with passion, then use it as much as you can. At the end of this life, go out with a crumbling, bruised heart and soul that gave too much and loved too strongly and felt too madly. It is better to have felt, and felt deeply, than to have lived your whole life in a nonchalant and neutral state.
When it comes to should-haves and might-have-beens, well, let’s just ignore those, because the only fulfilling way to live is the infinitely. It will always be more exciting and livelier to be out in the field and getting bruised than to be on the sidelines feeling superior for never having tried anything.
Be the person who tries harder, cares more, loves stronger, gives a lot more than the other numb people who surround them. Be the person who answers their messages and doesn’t leave others hanging or guessing at your eternally vague intentions. Be the one who gives your best in your relationships.
Why you should do that? Because that is what we need in this cold and weird world we live in nowadays – more people who care. More people who aren’t afraid to shout what they want from the rooftops. We need more people with passion. More people who will stand up and fight for exactly what they want from this life and that aren’t afraid to end up a bit disappointed or probably look a bit stupid on their way to achieving what they want. At least they tried.
Stop trying to quiet the screaming in your head and remember how blessed you are that you have those feelings. You can be covered in bruises and overflowing with emptiness. You can be lost, alone, and incredibly hurt. However, it can always, and when I say always, I mean ALWAYS be worse – as it is for countless other people out there. Be thankful.
If being the person who loves too much means that you break your own heart over and over again, then be that person. You might cry yourself to sleep too often at night but at least those strong feelings are what keep you alive in this maddening world.