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It is a basic human condition: Relationships are complicated. Cheating has always been the number one cause to blame when it came to break-ups.

Almost everyone has a story about a cheating ex in their long history of dating. Let’s not forget the numerous songs and movies which describe a heart-breaking story of cheating.

Perhaps to avoid all this fuss, some people just ended up accepting polygamy. This is how open relationships and complicated situations started to be. It was properly explained and agreed from both sides that, at any given time, they would both be able to see other people. Since it is not a matter of honesty anymore, an open relationship can perfectly work.

However, it is not an open relationship when only one of the parts declares it only to their friends, while the other person lives in their happy bubble of monogamy.

Let’s be realistic: nothing lasts forever and passion will inevitably start to fade away. It is absolutely normal that during long-term relationships anyone would seek different sources of excitement other than the partner.

Sometimes it is a breakup cause, while some others people just accept it and move on in the same relationship, forgiving, forgetting and in some cases just waiting for it to happen again.

One of the most falsely interpreted stereotypes ever is marriage itself, and its subsequent requirement of eternal loyalty. There is no magic button to turn someone dedicated to his or her lifetime partner after a ceremony.

How can it even be possible?

To be honest, we all know a significant amount of marriages from seemingly successful for societal purposes, but when the show is over, there is always going to be a cheating side and a victimized still-in-love cheated side, who never saw it coming. In the best case scenario, both of them are seeing other people. Never-ending fights will start, more or less violent, and most of the times they will lead to a final separation or divorce.

Imagine the following science fiction scenario. How about an open marriage? Yes, it is exactly what you understand. Both sides are able to date other people whenever they want, and both sides will be aware. However, there is a catch. It should be built with a strong friendship and mutual understanding as its foundations. This will keep the family bonds tight when the passion goes away.

It won’t be a rose garden, especially when someone has to confess “legal cheating” for the first time. Every sort of reaction is expected, but since both parts will be aware of such a possibility, acceptance is way easier.

So why don’t you take a minute and consider it?

After all, life is not a fairy tale.

Author: Tina Barbatsalou

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