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Sleeping next to the person you love is no small thing. I am writing an article essentially about sleep and that will not sell on its own; it never would. But then again, maybe this is not about sleep at all. This article is about that moment in the middle of the night, when a nightmare hits you and then you turn to your bedside and see who is there to hug you. If that is another casual encounter, then too bad for you.

If it is the person you love, then I guess the rest of the article is for you. Only you.

Lying next to the person you love is a sacred thing. It means that you have someone in your life that you trust will not slit your throat when you least expect it.

Okay, now I’ve creeped you out, but that was necessary so that you would get my starting point as soon as possible. And my point is it has become all too easy to share a bed erotically with someone, it is almost considered the norm. However, sleeping is a whole other domain that requires better thinking, and definitely a wider emotional background.

Why have we discarded, so easily, that sleeping –and actually sleeping with someone– is an action that brings emotionally charged moments. I will not only focus on the nightmares, but the actual good days.

The ones that you need to inform about a success, the ones you need to hug after a failure so that they’ll make you feel better, the ones that you’ll make love to and not just have sex with, the ones your eyes will water for when they surprise you or even say “I love you” when you least expect it, or when you need it most.

I know you’ll wonder, are these really the good days?

Yes, because during the bad ones, the really bad ones, all you need is a soft bed and a warm body that you know is there for you for good, and not occasionally, or with someone else two hours ago and just for half an hour on a Saturday night.

I may be harsh on casual affairs, but the truth is I do admire it when in those kinds of situations one of the interested parties departs after the act (or the series of it) takes place and does not stay. Staying in bed after sex means, and that those of you out there that practice casual affairs quite often know that, that certain things might or might not happen. Like getting attached, or whatever, but certainly something might happen that is unprecedented, unexpected.

Sleeping with someone means you let go. You let go for good, and you let go big time. And yes, you might have practiced it before. Perhaps with your high-school sweetheart. But then again your options in love, were as limited as your experiences. So I’ll give you a pass on that.

However, you’re a big boy/girl now. Take a look at the side of your bed? Did you wake up and sleep with the same person?

Was it the one you love…?

Author: Michael Poe

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