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Well, let’s clarify something; break ups aren’t easy. Separation from the person you once loved or the person that once loved you is one of the toughest moments in someone’s life.

Whether you are the one who decided it or the one who faces it, pain simply remains pain and, believe it or not, it’s hard for both parts of a couple – regardless of what each one of them tries to show.

And let me explain why.

What I want to concentrate on is the suffering of those who happen to be in the position of ending their relationship.

Well, these people have also suffered a great deal in order to reach the point that led them to the decision to break up. No split came out from nowhere, right?

Most of the couples end their relationships for a couple of reasons which undoubtedly ruin their everyday, shared life. It could be anything; disagreements, different goals in life, different needs, distance, fights and anything else. Break-ups, most of the times, forewarn you long before they come, mainly through situations that are endured with difficulty.

And even if sometimes it seems like you free yourself from this kind of sadness, in fact, at the beginning, most of the times you creep in it even more.

The days after a break up feel like a nightmare. They, most of the times, are intense and emotional – very emotional.

“What will happen now?” “Did we become strangers?” “Should I say hi when I see them?” “Will they look at me if they meet me or they’ll immediately gaze to somewhere else?”, “Is there any chance for them to return?” and million similar thoughts flood our minds.

Not to mention the days you simply want to do nothing. Staying inside and talking to no one or going out, drinking and hanging out with friends in order not to think of him or her and to feel cool are the two victorious facts that usually happen some days after a split up.

And after a couple of months –or maybe even years– when you are really fine and you think that you have now found yourself again, there they are: your ex-other-half is standing in front of your eyes with a new lover. And your whole world starts to fall apart again.

Could it be that this is actually the hardest part of ending a relationship? I think so. Because, this is when you really realize the end has come and passed; when you clearly see that the other person has moved on.

The connection you once had with them is now replaced and what it really confirms is that you are no longer relevant to them.

All of a sudden your feelings magically pop up on front and you, and at that moment, you can be assured if you’ve really gotten over your ex or not.

You know, there’s a beauty behind the whole process. Seeing your ex with someone new is always going to be weird but at the same time it’s one major point that will make you realize your current feelings.

If it feels like a shot to your heart you probably need some more time. If it doesn’t bother you so much, it simply means that you are in a really happy phase of your life.

But you could have guessed that on your own as well, couldn’t you?

What you couldn’t, is the fact that in every case, and regardless of your current feelings, your heart beats will always accelerate when you see them with their new love.

Right?

Author: Tonia Pirtsi

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