When you've gone without sex for too long

Okay, let’s start off really forward. Who doesn’t like sex?

Well, unless you’re asexual, the answer would have to be none of us, really. Everybody likes sex; that’s a given. And the more you’re used to doing it, the more you need it. I don’t blame you, though. Sex is indeed great. It’s an awesome way to calm your nerves, take out all your hidden tension, and, if anything else, have fun and find communication on a whole other level.  Especially when it is performed regularly.

Unfortunately, this sort of luxury doesn’t always exist for many. We live in an era that everything moves almost too fast, and most of us are mainly preoccupied with a different bunch of obligations we might consider more important than the while we need to take for ourselves. Lack of time and energy, countless responsibilities, and the modern society we live in inevitably get in our way, making sex a lot harder nowadays. But in the end, how much will you be able to go without it? Well, that’s up to you and your own demands, but I’m guessing that you will finally reach a breaking point where the wanting rises above you.

So, what do you do when it’s been a while since you got busy?

You guys voted, and now it’s all about what you have to say in our weekly poll. (Okay, maybe accompanied with a little bit of my annoying remarks too).

So, a fair 9% percent of our readers found calling up an ex not such a bad idea after all. First things first, I am going to go ahead and say that this is a huge no-no. Exes are exes for a reason, right? So why would you go and make things more complicated than they already are just for the sake of an hour’s physical joy? So, do me a favour and don’t go for the old fashioned booty call, at least not in your former lover. Just sit back and think of the awkwardness you are about to experience before you pick up that phone and text the good ol’ “what’s up?” at 2 am. I guarantee you that you will almost get the same joy with a couple beers, a good movie, and maybe some pizza, too, minus the cringe, of course. And baby, it’s finally time to explore your options. There really are other fish in the sea.

Next, there’s a more rational approach to the whole thing. So, you’ve been chatting with somebody for a while, and there’s this ongoing flirtation between you two, definitely. You surely are interested, and what better way to seal the deal than getting naked with them? A 17% of you guys find the idea of being with someone new the most pleasing, and for right reason. So does another 22% of our weekly readers, thinking of one night stands when it comes to simply wanting to get intimate. And I get it, I really do. It can be a whole lot of fun being with someone you don’t know that well and simply enjoying yourself without worrying about what’s going to happen the morning after. You need to be careful in both cases, though.

Make sure that you and this person are on the same page about the whole thing. It really would be a shame for one-sided feelings to exist when one of you is only interested in getting laid. Of course, there’s always the possibility that you’ll end up dating this person, and you’ll at least know from the very start if you are compatible with them in bed. In then end, it really is only your choice. Just remember, that sex should be something you do not because you feel obliged to, but because you want to. So, it is important that you at least lust for this person, and not view them as an end solution, but as someone you really want to sleep with. Worry not, things will move on their own from there. The final call is yours.

Now, a 24% of you guys must really get some, huh? Probably so much that you’ve forgotten what it’s like to go without it even for mere time periods. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, or simply like to sleep around, you don’t miss sex, and that’s really all that matters. So I’m not even going to make any comments here. If you’re having fun and you’re happy, you’ve already won. The only thing I will tell you is to not sleep with people only for showing off, or simply out of boredom. It’s way better when there’s a sparkle there.

Lastly, there’s our last group of voters, and it’s also the most dominant, rising at 28%. And of course it no other than the romantics. You like sex the most when it is accompanied with emotion, and prefer to wait for a meaningful connection to do it, and for good reason. I mean, sex can be great no matter the type of relationship you have with the person you’re doing it with, but I’m sure no one can argue that it gets significantly better when you care about your partner, and much more when someone has managed to turn you on in a non- physical way. It is inevitable that when there’s obvious chemistry there, the sex will be astonishingly good. And keep in mind that it’s also a great way to come closer with your partner and be more intimate with them, expressing a whole bunch of feelings your words could not even closely describe.

In the end, only note that it’s your body, and it’s your choice and only yours what you’ll do with it. Whether you choose to wander around in new beds to fulfil your needs, or be with with someone long-term to feel comfortable enough to truly be intimate, in the end of the day, the best judge you can have is only yourself. So go get out there, live your life as you wish to, and above all, stay safe!