Manipulation and control through sex

Although most are unaware of the fact, probably the most prevalent way sex is used, is that it is used as a weapon of control and manipulation; more often than not on an unconscious level.

Many individuals may feel that they would never attempt to use sex for manipulation and control. But if one looks carefully, most social customs around sex use it as a way of controlling the members of its population.

In fact, if we look at it in depth, we will see it is probably used socially more often as a weapon of control and manipulation than it is used to procreate. There is no judgment or criticism meant in this statement. Rather, it is about being more insightful to how the creative power of sexuality is controlled and/or employed by people individually and collectively. Given the creative power in sexuality it is only natural that society would desire to use it for its own ends.

The depth and breadth of how sex is used as a weapon of control and manipulation is tremendously vast. Additionally, it can be used as a mechanism to control someone overtly or covertly, consciously or even unconsciously. There is an uncountable number of ways in which sex can be used as a weapon of control and manipulation. This discussion can only serve to bring the focus of our attention and awareness as to the existence of this issue. We each will need to explore our own life to see how it has been, or is being, used on us, and how we have used, or are using, it to get what we desire.

It is probably very obvious that the desire for sex is a very strong drive in human beings. The strength of the drive may change durning the years and phases of our life, but it is nevertheless present in most individuals throughout most of their lives. Additionally, the experiences we have around sex at an early age (not engaging in sex but just being exposed to actions, thinking or beliefs around the action) have a huge influence on how we use it and respond to it in the future. Because it is such a strong influence throughout our life there are many ways that it can be used to influence, manipulate they way they operate or even control their reactions.

Sex is ultimately a tool. It can be used for procreation, recreation, creation, awakening and transformation, going to sleep and becoming unaware, and as an apparatus to achieve a certain goal. Unless we understand and work with the flow of energy behind sexuality –the sexuality we feel and that emanate towards others– we will not see how to effectively use it as a tool other than for control and manipulation which is the way it is most currently used it and the way most are unconsciously taught to use it.

As the second most creative state one can find themselves in, the mindset, before, during and even after sex, is a very powerful two edged sword that can be seen as the metaphysical equivalent of nuclear energy. It can be used constructively or destructively. The space that can be created is such that the sexual experience is used as a vehicle to allow an individual to expand into the fullness of being, find and access their own truth, become aware of the awareness which lies in feeling, and move into the depth and breadth of their own inherent creativity.

Destructively, on the other hand, sex used as a means to achieve and end has just as many applications. It spans the spectrum from the free expression of our creative spirit to it becoming thwarted in its express to the point that is can essentially shrivel up and die. The different between manipulation and control is really only of degree.