To be single or not to be?

Every situation in life is like a coin; it has two sides. Everything you do has pros and cons. And it all depends on what mood you are in, and the way you see the glass – half full or half empty.

There’s a situation that every one of us has found ourselves in at one point or another in our romantic life; and that’s being single.

It doesn’t matter if you had a relationship and broke up or if you still haven’t found someone that will make you leave behind your solitary life. Being “single” it’s not just a relationship status on Facebook; it is a lifestyle. In fact a lot of people, especially men, are sworn bachelors and refuse to leave this way of living. There are, of course, others that didn’t really choose it; it just happens.

There are a lot of benefits in living an unattached life. You are independent, free and anything you do affects mostly only you. You have a lot of time by yourself and for yourself. You have all the leeway you need so that you can discover who you really are and what you really need. You sure have more spare time to dedicate to your hobbies, your friends and your family.

There’s something magical in knowing that in every decision you make, from what you are going to eat for dinner to in which country are you going to live, the only person you have to ask is you. Also, the period you are romantically uncommitted, is probably the best time in your life to start a career, so that you can give it all your attention, time and excitement. Endless nights with friends, partying, and of course, the best part of all, is the endless flirting. Yup, you can flirt anywhere, with anyone, and not feel a single shred of guilt about it.

But, as there are magnificent things that come with being only responsible for yourself, there are also drawbacks to it.

Being single can be really fun –but it can be really tough as well. You often have to face loneliness and we all know how hard this is. As independent as you may be, as much as you can take care of yourself just fine on your own, there comes a time that if you have to do everything alone; and you get tired.

We all need someone by our side, being strong for us when we can’t be, someone for whom we are a priority. Someone that will tell us it’s going to be alright and that we don’t have to worry.

Another thing that can prove tricky for a single person is when all their friends are coupled up except for them. You feel kind of like an outsider and you might start feeling awkward being around them. You have no none to celebrate anniversaries with, no one to wait for you at home when you get back from work or to make a surprise for you just to see you smile. Plus, we all know that no matter how many, and how successful, one-night stands you have, nothing will ever compare to sleeping in your lover’s arms and waking up next the one you love.

On one hand, being single is great no drama, no danger for heartbreak, but on the other hand you get lonely, you miss that feeling of been someone’s and the thrill of being in love.

At the end of the day, life is wonderful. Either being single or as the one piece a couple, and because as we all know everything changes and almost nothing lasts forever, we have to live every situation life brings us in the best possible way we can, gaining experience and becoming better and wiser.