I remember when I was a little girl, I always got so upset when someone, even someone I didn’t know very well, was leaving. Not because I was going to miss them, but because I came to realize that people come and go a lot, you forget about them, they forget about you and, sometimes, they change so much that you can’t even recognize them after a while.
There is only one that will never disappear, that cannot ever leave you, even if you want them to – you.
It doesn’t matter if you are still living in the house where you were born or if you have left the country; you will still be with you. That’s why it is so important to love yourself.
Because you can’t get away from You.
As we all know, human beings experience a lot of feelings and, from time to time, we need to make changes in our lives, to see other things, so as to move forward. Well what about ourselves? That’s right – no matter how much you love yourself and how far you have come to accept and improve it, there still will be times when you can’t stand yourself. Maybe you’ve got an excuse for it or maybe not. It doesn’t matter; there will be times when you feel you need a break from your own self.
It may seem impossible to take that break and it is –at least physically– but our need has nothing to do with our body, most of the times, but it is about our character, our thoughts and our habits; about everything we do and everything we are. That may sound a little disturbing but, if it doesn’t happen too often, it is normal. Yes, it is a part of our glorious human nature. I sometimes even wonder how the human kind manages to survive with all these complexities we have, but never mind.
So, it is normal to need a break from yourself from time to time.
That could mean a lot of things and not all of them are necessarily bad things. A break from yourself means a break from yourself as you currently are, as you have become given certain circumstances. After that you can come back as a better version of you. We all need some distance from things we need to make a decision about so that we can see them more objectively and from another point of view. And to do that we need to get out of our own heads, we need to get away from ourselves. That really helps to make the right decision.
During the times we need a break from ourselves, it doesn’t mean we don’t love ourselves or that we are mentally ill. In fact, I think it shows the exact opposite thing. Every time something important happens in our life –especially when bad things come about– we may need to take this break from everything. Not because we need to get away from the problem or because we hate ourselves (well maybe the first case just a bit) but mostly and when the first craziness and pain a bad situation can cause starts to fade, it is all about improving ourselves; getting some distance and seeing what we did that got us to that bad situation, what we could have done better, what we can improve so we do it better next time.
The thought of losing yourself may be a little strange, or sometimes difficult, but it is most of the times it’s for the best. We need time to process our experiences, our thoughts, our feelings, our moves through the years to realize if we are on the right path for us or not, if we are happy with who we become or not.
Sometimes the only way to find yourself is to take a little break from it first.