Words come cheap

There are two types of people out there: those who just open their mouths and speak and those who turn their words into actions. When it comes to relationships, those two types are becoming more and more obvious.

Take the example of the most typical scenario, girl meets boy, boy meets girl, boy speaks, girl falls deeply in love. She hangs on his every word, gets all starry-eyed when he whispers sweet nothings to her, and turns into a rug for him to wipe his feet on just because he knows exactly what she wants to hear.

He is all talk, but little action: “baby, I’ve never felt this way about anyone before” or “baby, we are meant to be”. There’s no bigger lie than this. Of course, people change, if someone hurt your feelings in the past it doesn’t necessarily mean that it will happen again. But you should always be careful, and you still have to face the facts before falling for lines that may not mean anything to the one saying them; and end up heartbroken again.

If the person who is uttering these words has a proven track record of being a player you need to be careful. He might just know how to say all the right things to get what he wants.

If he talks, weaving intricate stories, painting beautiful pictures, and creating images of a bright future together so soon, you should probably be on high alert. If any of the things he talks about doing with you never come to light, it’s because he’s talking a big game for his own reasons. It might have to do with his immaturity as well –because empty talk is a characteristic of immaturity– but the broken-hearted person at the end of this will be you.

We’ve all been there, right at that point when we meet the smooth-talking guy, who says all the right things and with perfect timing. But it will turn out eventually that this guy knows all those words too well because he has actually done this before many times. If this seems way too good to be true, it probably is so you might consider escaping this situation as soon as possible.

‘Actions speak louder than words’ and if you can’t see those words becoming actions, then there’s another major red flag.

When you fall in love with someone, it’s quite normal that you will believe each and every one of the words they say. If someone says they want to spend time with you but repeatedly fails to show up, or finds cheap excuses, it is pretty clear that they won’t follow through on their promises.

The moment we realize we’re being mistreated, simply being told lies and seeing them transformed into actions, we have to open that damn door and storm out from that relationship with an apparently unstable person. We have to open our eyes so that we know when enough is enough. Of course, it’s never our fault when someone else hurts us, but it is definitely within our power to stop allowing this to happen to us and not to expect others to make us happy.