“Once a cheater, always a cheater?”
Why do people cheat anyway? If you are in a beautiful, healthy relationship, if you actually respect the person you are with, then cheating shouldn’t even be a thought in your mind, let alone an even far away possibility.
It’s like people are looking for another job when they already have an amazing job and they are super happy. If someone, man or a woman, has a job that basically meets all of their needs, then they really shouldn’t have any kind of motivation to leave this great job simply to go back out into the job market.
People who cheat, both men and women, do this because they don’t really care about the impact of their actions against their partner and their relationship; or even they are stupid enough to not understand that cheating on your partner, means that you’re basically destroying what you have already created and fought for. Cheating is a very selfish act. It’s like sacrificing your happiness for a few minutes of pleasure. That’s not fair for the person who actually believed in you, put his/her hopes up for you, made dreams and plans with you…it’s like a knife creating a deep, bleeding, eternal scar in your body and soul.
These people haven’t learned to think of anyone other than themselves; or even if they do, they don’t care enough to stop. Whether or not you believe in monogamy –and that monogamy is the most natural thing– you should also make sure that the person who you share your life with, shares the same thoughts and way of life as you, before ending up being a complete fool for trusting him or her in the first place.
Most unfaithful people aren’t seeking out an additional relationship or even replace their relationship: they are just seeking to satisfy their physical needs. If you ever realize that you’re not the only one in your partner’s life, then you should just get out of this relationship immediately. No one deserves to be an option.
Cheating is considered to be like a way, a tool to sabotage an already failed relationship because if your partner cheats on you, they will cheat on you again and again. Infidelity isn’t something that is impulsive and impossible to avoid. You have to remember this though: just because someone cheated in a past relationship, it doesn’t mean they will cheat in all their future relationships.
Being unfaithful basically shows the emotional immaturity and instability of someone’s personality. How can you trust anyone that has cheated, in any aspect of your life; a person who broke someone’s heart just for someone else’s body? This is definitely what we call ‘lust’ and don’t forget that lust was considered to be one of the seven deadly sins (not becoming religious here, but that’s the truth).
There are definitely temptations out there, always and everywhere, but should we agree with Oscar Wilde when he said “the only way to resist temptation is to yield to it”? But why should there be any temptations when you’re in a fulfilled and loving relationship?
If you truly love a person you would never cheat on them.