Great expectations

It’s good to have high expectations, otherwise, how can you give your best to your own life and the people around you. Given, of course, the fact that they deserve it. You should expect the most from yourself and others as well. Holding yourself to a higher standard, even if you don’t always live up to it, takes a lot of effort; for you to be a better person you must actually strive.

You should always try to be the best version of yourself and that’s how the others will act around you. There’s nothing wrong with expecting the most out of others, either.

You should have high expectations not only of yourself but of others too. The worst thing, though, is that if you put a certain level of effort into any relationship, the other person should put the same level of effort back into it as well. If this is not happening, then this is where disappointment enters. We all owe certain obligations to others based on our relationship to them, and they, in return, owe certain obligations to us. There should be a balance.

And then there comes a day when you meet someone. It’s that perfect time in your life; a time for discovering whether or not two souls are compatible in body and in mind. It’s the time of all this excitement, smiling, happiness, butterflies, sleepless nights in the arms of a great man, or an amazing woman.

You are both crazy for each other, everything seems brighter, birds are singing, the sky is extremely blue and you suddenly feel so much happiness you cannot stop smiling. Inevitably, feelings do get involved; from your part. You get attached because, let’s face it, we are not all dead inside.

You try to convince yourself that this is going to be perfect, you’re playing down your expectations to your friends, and especially yourself, but it’s pretty obvious that you’re in trouble.

You have entered that dangerous path that leads to nowhere. Suddenly the sky gets dark, nothing can make you smile, you’re taking the downfall… but you cannot admit anything.

Your loved ones are always next to you -you appreciate them but it’s too late now. It can only go two ways and you don’t have time on your side to decide; before you know it, the butterflies were transformed into a pain in the stomach, tears on your face. That beautiful image you painted in your mind is gone now and you’ve landed badly back into reality.

Coming back to reality is difficult but necessary; it forces you to reevaluate things.

Expectations. Great expectations always end up hurting you. It’s very normal though that we always have to put in the amount of effort we would like to get back and we will end up disappointed if we don’t get what we want.

Be clear, be honest, and be truthful in your expectations. If they don’t match the expectations of the person you are with, then talk about it, try to figure it out but if the other person is emotionally unavailable, there’s pretty much nothing you can do about it. Everyone’s confused, everyone has their own emotional baggage to deal with, but if you are mature enough to engage in a serious and intimate relationship, then you will always be smart enough to discuss your insecurities and issues with them. If they want to listen, that’s perfectly fine. If not, then you shouldn’t waste your time.

There’s definitely nothing wrong with being the one who gives more, or behaves better, even if you don’t get the same in return. It’s better knowing that you gave your all, or at least you tried to. After all, life is a rollercoaster baby; you should expect everything.