“You are my everything”.
Have you ever said that to anybody special? I know I have had.
Well, from the lyrics of many moving songs and the pages of a bunch of touching novels to our romantic teenage beliefs about love, this phrase has been said and written millions of times to express a heart’s complete devotion to someone. And though it sounds and seems wonderful to know that a person can love somebody else that much, I beg all of you love-struck human beings of this universe in a relationship — do not forget to take care of yourself as well. I can’t stress enough how important it is both for you and your precious relationship not to lose yourself just because of being emotionally involved with a guy or a girl that means a lot to you.
I get that when you are in love with someone it feels natural and essential to try your best to take care of them, keep them happy and make them feel safe by your side. So, you have the urge to make this happen and make them stay close to you by all means. But, let me tell you that if you want to you can and must give your heart to someone without giving up yourself.
You see, most people mistakenly believe that when they are with someone they are crazy about, the whole universe revolves around them. They give whatever they have to impress that someone and make them happy and sacrifice many aspects of their true hearts just to look perfect in the eyes of their sweethearts. And of course, no one would deny that it is beautiful to find someone to love with all of you but please make sure that you won’t lose you to do so.
Remember that relationships that actually work demand two people in love that maintain their own characteristics, dreams and lives and then also build new common ones to share with one another at the same time. Always keep in mind that your honey was attracted to your unique, authentic, independent personality in the first place and not some fake, boring and slavish person that sticks to them and follows them around like some loyal puppy and suffocates them. So, do not change everything about you to become lovable for somebody else. Love and embrace who you are, take care of your individual needs and keep on following some of your own desires. If what you have with that special someone is true, they will support you. And you will be surprised to find that they will be possibly even more into you, admiring your self-confidence and your fiery nature. After all, no one will want to love you if you don’t love yourself first. Not even the one that made you put you in the second place anyway.
Lastly, think that in the worst-case scenario of your relationship going bad, you will be relieved to know that you haven’t betrayed yourself in the meanwhile.
That you haven’t become someone else to please others.
And that it will be quite easier to forget and move on if you still have an interesting life to live.
If wonderful things are waiting for you in the future. With or without them.