Love can wait; your dreams can't

“Just try. You never know.” There she goes again bugging me to give this guy I have been dating for a week or so a chance. I am so dumb! Why did I even mention this to her?

People have feelings and sometimes they get attached. I don’t want to give a man hope If I’m not entirely sure I want to devote time to someone and commit to a relationship. Not just with him – but with any man on this planet.

I’m a grown woman and I can do whatever I want. If I want to do it, I’ll do it – simple as that. There will be neither a declaration, nor will I  be asking for permission – I’ll just do it. Being with a person that I’m not interested in, investing my time only so that I won’t be the last single woman in my group of friends sounds so humiliating and deceptive on my behalf.

Love finds one when they’re ready for it. It’s not my fault that some people are lucky enough to find love early. Others find it by the time they go to college and others meet that special one a little bit later. Of course, there is a group of people that, despite searching and searching all their lives, don’t find it. Mainly because they had been too blind to see that a potential opportunity was lying right in front of their eyes, and simply letting it pass them by. Then again, there are some who have set their priorities in life in order, and romance is not among them.

The good news about love is that it always comes. The bad news is that it arrives when you least expect it, taking you by surprise.

Timing plays a very important role in our lives, whether you like it or not. It’s all about timing with little cupid not giving a damn about what you think. His plans are never shared with anyone but his arrows. One of those arrows might strike you while you’re waiting for the next train or while you are waiting for your wife to come back from work.

The time and the scenery in which you might get struck are unknown. You could be in a situation where you have already been married for years or you are a single parent with two little munchkins to take care of. That’s when the real fun begins with the cupid laughing behind your back. He put you in a situation where you are torn apart. A dilemma suddenly rises.

Should you give up your comfort zone in order to welcome the one who is really destined for you? Or should you just continue doing what you have always been doing? What if you wake one day and you are sixty years old regretting dearly not seizing the chance while you could? That little menace cupid, destroying people’s rational thinking!

Despite currently not treating love as something significant, I dare to say that there is nothing wrong with flirting. You know – innocent looks, long gazes, seductive compliments, etc. I regard it as quite refreshing – and necessary to be frank. Nevertheless, I find it awfully tiring and degrading for myself to try and convince some random guy to approach me, to talk to me, and to like me with the hope that he will fall in love with me.

It took me quite some time to get where I am standing here today and to be truly proud of who I am and how I look. If I have to force things, pretending to be someone else so that you’ll like me, I’m sorry but clearly you’re not the one for me.

While my friends fall in and out of love, jumping from one relationship to another I devote my days to my dreams. I have so, so many dreams that most nights I become an insomniac thinking of plausible ways to pursue them. Many call me a dreamer but I am the one who doesn’t get to sleep at night.

I’m not saying that I don’t want to fall in love; I’m just saying that love can wait. To travel the world, to meet new people, to find my purpose in life – those are the things that I am striving for and so should you.

Eventually, the right person will arrive; for soul mates always end up together. Whether you’re in your twenties or in your sixties, it will happen when it’s supposed to; not before that.

And if he’s really the right person for you, he won’t allow you to abandon your dreams just to get stuck in a monotonous routine with him, calling it a relationship for two. The right one will stand by your side, giving you space and at the same time the push to achieve your dreams not solo but together. Until he comes, you should be working on yourself, for yourself, by yourself. Thus, when he’s here he will meet the real and most of all the accomplished you.

Do what you want and do it passionately. Or else there is no reason to put your time and energy in the first place. Be cautious though – so that other people don’t get hurt during the process, which is of course inevitable. Please do try though, it is better off to be remembered with love rather than to be hated. By the time you fulfill your dreams and make your plans a reality, I’m certain you will find that special someone.

Unless you’re like me; someone who never stops dreaming and setting goals. The poor guy – not only will he have to deal with that abnormal personality of yours, but he will be forced to participate in the achievement of your wondrous dreams too. Just promise me one thing, okay?

Don’t rush into things.
Love can wait – your dreams can’t.